It seems like people love giving advice when it comes to pregnancy and parenthood. I'm not sure whether it is the fact that it brings them joy to share things they've learned, or if they really think I'm so clueless I won't make it without advice.
Either way, sometimes I go into advice overload. There's just too much of it sometimes! Everyone means well, and I don't get upset with anyone for giving advice. I just don't always "listen" because sometimes I feel overwhelmed by it.
I actually know a lot more about babies and what it's going to be like than it might seem. I have a couple of reasons (in no particular order). I watched a plethora of educational baby shows for years. I watched "Bringing Home Baby" and saw what it was like for people to go through having a newborn at home the first days/weeks after the hospital. Granted, yes, the show is edited and doesn't show everything. However, once you watch show after show, you start to build knowledge. Another thing is the fact that I have cared for infants myself. I have been a nanny. I took care of three babies all by myself with no help or advice on what I was supposed to be doing or how to do it. I had to figure it out as I went along and ask a lot of questions. I worked in a daycare with infants. There, I learned how to effectively bundle a baby. I saw babies in all stages of development.
I hear things from what I should eat and shouldn't eat to whether I should nap or shouldn't nap. What things I need to get for my baby and what things I don't need to get...Whether I should nurse solely or have a pump...how much I should lift or not lift during pregnancy or how active/inactive I need to be...people saying that it's okay to drink wine to people criticizing my choice of not drinking any caffeine...and basically it all boils down to everyone says something different. I have had so much different advice, I don't even know what to do with it sometimes. Maybe I'll nap with one eye open while twitching a leg so I can nap and be active at the same time. I say all of this lightheartedly and in good humor because it's nothing I'm annoyed by. It's just funny how everyone has advice and if I listened to it all, I would be stuck in neutral.
I still have a lot to learn, but I have learned more than a lot of people know. And I'm sure that sharing advice is more or less done out of personal excitement that they have information and they want to share it with someone. I'm not really saying that I don't want advice because I do. I just sometimes feel like putting people on mute every now and then.... ;)